For me, the field of psychology was a wonderful love affair from the very beginning.It challenged me early on to work through my own stuff and learn to be present in this moment. I learned a lot as I grew within my own psyche (mind and soul), first with my masters degree and then with my doctorate.
Having been a therapist for years, I naturally worked full time in high-tech and saw clients at night. My private practice was always a part-time thing for me. Then, one day as jobs came and went, I realized that I had another skill set to fall back on. In my private practice, I reached out to those in need wanting to help as many as I could. In my private practice, I saw a lot of clients. I always said they were lined up around the block with a 2.5 month waiting list (true).
Of course, some of it was the fee base, but mostly it was because I am a solution-focused brief therapist. I have been that way for years long before HMO’s and managed care networks. Approximately 68% to 73% of my practice was 3-5 sessions or less for individuals. I saw couples for 8-10 sessions tops. If you showed up, I expected you to work just as hard as I was working and let me tell you, clients loved it and they told others.
As a result, my philosophical and therapeutic style evolved into what is now standard operating procedure for so many therapists in the healing modalities, namely: Mindfulness, MIND/BODY/SPIRIT, and a Holistic approach that empowers individuals to self-soothe and self-heal by using cognitions (thoughts), and CBT techniques in conjunction with Spiritual awareness!
I witnessed so many success stories. I remember one attorney came for his second session, and when he arrived he kept standing by the door. I welcomed him to come inside and sit on the couch. He refused. At first I didn’t understand what he wanted. Then, he said, “Margot, I just came by to shake your hand. That first session was amazing! I am good to go. I don’t need to come back right now. I learned so much and I feel so much better. Thank you.”
I wrote my first book Kickstart Your Relationship Now! to help people who like using books to supplement their own growth. It’s helpful for couples who have previously been to couple’s therapy and didn’t get the results they were hoping for, or for those who can’t afford therapy at this time.
In Kickstart, I examine extramarital affairs, game playing, shame and blame, arguing and the role sex, secrets and money play in your relationship. All in an effort to bring you the best, most practical advice to improve your marriage/relationship, as well as to help improve your relationship with yourself
I’m happy to share that I live my husband in the San Francisco Bay Area. I love hiking in the woods, reading murder mysteries & legal thrillers, watching action movies, and traveling.
Perspective is everything! The way you see it, the way I see it and how each and everyone of us sees something is unique. Yet, sometimes we listen to the news, or see an ad or read an article on the web and our perspective changes. Or, perhaps without even thinking about it, we find ourselves migrating to mostly how others see it.
THE WAKE-UP CALL
But, when something occurs outside the realm of our day-to-day routine, it wakes us up and we all take notice. Once, I saw an elderly woman on the news being interviewed in response to an 82,000 acre mountain range fire that called for a state emergency. Her look and her words gave me a chill as I listened when she looked directly into the camera and remarked: “Regardless as to whether or not I lose my home, and I hope I don’t, I guarantee you, I will never look at life the same way.”
That shook me to my bones. Or, some would say to my Soul. Her words were potent. She didn’t cry, she didn’t shout out, she just said what she meant. It was her truth!
That’s perspective. We take in new information via our senses (seeing, hearing, feeling, sensing, tasting, smelling), or, we might experience something and be responding to the demands of the moment. Whatever the modality, it’s the shift in perspective and the learning that we derive from it that is the beauty and power of life! In that moment, we shift our awareness and broaden our understanding of ourselves and of life! That’s the moment of magic.
I would venture to say that the woman on the newscast, didn’t brush it off if she went and found her house standing after that…